I think because your trying to get her professional help Opio this doesnt make you codependent. If you were just trying to love her enough, smooch on her enough, and fix all her mental health and emotional issues then I might give you the nod.
HAHAHAHAH not my favorite term.
Did the therapist recommend another person for family counseling? My husband has his own doctor, and for a while I saw one too. But then we see another one together. They are all in the same group but independent. I think its probably better because you do form a certain relationship and comfort level over time. Its not a quick fix, but maybe if you try and also at the same time keep strengthening yourself, seek out some legal advice because of the kids and the finances. Hopefully you wont ever need it but knowledge is power, planning in advance can often be crucial to success.