I think that people who are happy or at least peaceful inside of their own heads, don't really like to be "outside" of their own heads. Now that I am reaching a level of serenity and peaceful acceptance of myself and my life, I really don't want anything to take that feeling away. I want to be in control. So, my goal in raising my children has been to be loving, supportive and an aid in helping them to feel comfortable in their own skin, to respect themselves as sparks of God/creation and for them to look at others as the same, nothing more and nothing less.