I'm sorry Lizatola.
Unfortunately sometimes its just the natural progression of things. I too am separated and on the path to divorce. My AH also refuses AA or any recovery. He cutrs down whenever he sees fit but never truly stops. It's sad but competely out of my control. I am also looking at purchasing a new home. It's a daunting and scary process but exciting at the same time because it represents new beginnings. For me, just remembering that things are happening as they are meant to happen and that I amoin my HP's path helps me. I pray this transition goes smoothly for you. You are not alone.