Welcome, Doureallycare2. And yes, we really do care.
When my husband relapsed and I found my life had spiraled out of control, I sought the help of a counselor that specialized in drug & alcohol addiction as I needed to learn a lot about the disease. Eventually I also found this site, started attending AlAnon, and took the suggestions to read Codependent No More by Melody Beattie.
It sounds to me that you already know what you need to do, but maybe you need some support to actually do it. Keep reaching out and you will find the support you need.
There is also a Friends & Families of Alcoholics board here where you will find others that are or have been in similar relationships. There are also a number of sticky threads there which contain a wealth of information and support. Glad you found us.