You are thinking clearly and right. Don't be an enabler too. Let him move back home. Let them enable. You don't have to rescue him from them. Keep that in mind. Enabling is enabling whether it's under your roof or under his parent's roof. I know you care for him, but sometimes the best love for somebody is to let them fail and then walk on their own. It makes them stronger. And you don't know what God has in store for you. Something better is on the horizon. Work on yourself. Ask yourself WHY do I put up with this? Ask and you will find out!