I think it's fair to say that As tend to be selfish. And RAs do really need to be a bit selfish in early recovery. Which is not to say it's right or fair. Though that she is excluding you, etc, makes me think she's being passive-agressive and punishing you, whether she means to or not. Also, her body and mind are still adjusting.
Express your concerns, but be patient -- this might be all she can do right now.