Shell Crusher,
I recommend a family calendar and have a fair discussion on it. Cooking and any other issues that are important to you, her and the kid should be discussed too. This kind of organization is going to be necessary if things dont work out and will allow you a peek at life without AW - as in having your kid solo.
You are in Early Recovery which is more of a film noir about a missing person more than a light and airy Doris Day flick where it is obvious everyone lives a happy all American life forever and ever. Good luck.