I know I'm focusing on her again and I know I'm not supposed to be doing this. I'm just so angry with her dry drunk attitude that I'm starting to wonder if active or not, she's just nasty. If that's the case, I need to make choices.
My exah is nasty drunk or sober. I never knew until he managed to stay off it for a week or so to "prove a point" to me. He was still taking sleeping meds tho but I realised he is actually a piece of work and his drinking is not the main reason we are divorcing now. I think your concerns are very valid and you need some answers.