You have every right to discuss your frustrations - I would be very frustrated too.
Its a difficult balance with recovery. Recovery has to come first sometimes at the expense of the spouse.
In your case that doesn't sound like what you are dealing with. It sounds like dry drunk behavior and quacking, red flags for relapse (if she really quit drinking in the first place).
Your requests are simple and reasonable. Your response I think normal, she's been tugging your chain and then lied to you.
Even if she isn't drinking she is still exhibiting the same behavior.
Are you working the step program in Al Anon? Sounds to me like you need to set some boundaries.