Old 08-12-2014, 09:11 AM
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SparkleKitty
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I just don't think you have to worry about appearing 'rude'. You have a lot of history that makes it really really okay for you to ignore him if that is what is best for you and moving is not an option. You are perfectly valid in wanting "no contact" to mean exactly what it says.

But here: "And I want him to know that he will not get what he wants in this situation- which is to feel comfortable treating me with warmth and then coldness just to feed his ridiculous ego."

Rather than worry about what he wants, or about whether you're giving it to him or what it's doing, you have the power to simply stop feeding the drama at all. You can do this by putting your focus on you, one choice at a time. Sending you strength and patience.
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