O my gosh. I am so so sorry. I just cannot imagine what you are going through. I am going to throw something out there. I am not advocating doing this, just saying.
Years and years ago, a family member got a DUI. My mom, God bless her, called the judge several times. She then sent a plant to him. OMG really...who does that! She was desperate LOL. Anyways, eventually he had to assign the case to another judge b/c of conflict of interest b/c he could not remain inpartial b/c of my mother. LOL...I am cracking up just remembering this, what a deal.
Soooo.....maybe you could find a way or two to create a conflict of interest??
Wow. All of you have made me feel truly lucky I live where I do. I was able to get divorced right away and while there are some crap judges around here, I have never heard of anything like this.
Goodness. I send you the biggest hugs ever!!!!