My abusers changed the person I could have been. :-(
I let them change me. I defined myself by the things they said about me and did to me.
I gave up, really, for all intents and purposes.
Onl;y one little spark of the true me remains flickering but still alight.
When I got sober I took the real me back out of storage, and fanned heck out of that flame
you can do that too Serenidad
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