It's my job to make myself happy, not expect or depend on anyone else to do it.
It's my job to make progress in all the areas of my life that need work.
It's my job to outline what I want in life and not passively accept the opinions of those around me as to what would be good for me. It's my decision to make.
It's my job to take care of myself and not wait around for someone to notice if I need help. If I need help, I need to ask for it.
It's my job to work my CODA program and make the changes required and not obsess about the shortcomings of others. If my HP has a plan for me, then S/He has a plan for them as well and that plan is none of my business.