here's the beauty of amends....when we are the recipient we are under NO obligation to accept them, DO anything about them, or give the "olly olly oxen free" blank check on forgiveness. at any time you could have put a hand up and said - to me your amends sound more like same ole same ole and so i'm cutting this conversation off now because I am feeling uncomfortable. boundaries still exist even during the amends process.
if I owe you a thousand bucks and give you a roll of quarters, I still have a ways to go to "make good" - unless YOU decide that debt is now satisfied.
only time will tell
tell what? his statement regarding his son, to me, is really troubling. - he basically said it's his job to mentally and emotionally abuse his son to toughen him up. THAT IS NOT WHAT PARENTS DO. sounds like he just likes having yet another victim......