"Won't happen for me. Not with my wife. She's married to an alcoholic and she doesn't want to see me happy.
Did he and his sponsor discuss an amends plan? I can't imagine that they did. A sponsor would not let that statement through the gates. Sounds like he winged it without discussing it with his sponsor.
Amends aren't for fixing relationships. Amends aren't for making people happy. Amends aren't even for other people. They are for him to openly admit that he was wrong and say he is sorry and mean it and indicate honestly that he will try to change his behavior so it won't happen again. He is not supposed to argue about it, not try to explain or excuse himself or try to make it someone elses fault.