I would call the ""I don't know what you want from a husband', or, "I don't know what your plans are" business is acting out codie drama- I sure play that passive aggressive crapola. It took me while to start getting w/ the program and seeing and changing my behavior.. I'm surprised his sponsor is generally in favor of doing something like a step 9 amends so quickly- if it is that and not a step 10 immediate apology.. or this could be "transitional quacking" where he's starting to pick up the language and concepts but they're not deeply rooted yet.