Hi Shellcrusher,
I wonder about how things are going for you from time to time. When I saw your name I was both glad to see there would be an update and my heart sank a little presuming why you'd be here to update. I'm glad you posted. I'm glad you found a meeting for tonight. Congrats on the weight loss - that is great. I'm sorry your little boy is caught in the cross hairs.
The consistency of daycare will help.
Deep breath, get a meeting or two, and decide your next step. Not all the steps, just the next one.