JARP, my husband just came home tonight from 30 days in rehab. I was not against him coming home, I never really thought of him going any place else especially after making it this far for the first time ever. We start our counseling Monday. I'm also working on my boundaries for when/if there is a lapse or relapse. Its not easy or fun. No one knows who will and won't make it. I'm just trying to make decisions that are good for me and my kids. You do the same and be strong. What a wonderful place this is to receive such support and kind words, sometimes I'm amazed. Please keep updating, we seem to be going through similar situations and may be able to help each other out. Best wishes and hugs to you!!