Jarp, you gotta walk your path YOUR way. I could never have predicted all the turns & dead ends I have run into on my own path so far.
No judgements, (I stayed with RAH, no stones & glass houses here); my "advice" remains the same regardless of your decision.... please just don't lose your recovery in the process of all these adjustments. Keep logging in & reading & posting, keep therapy, al-anon, baying at the full moon - whatever works for you.
Work on those boundaries, understanding your own tolerance & place in all of this. ((((((hugs))))))