Originally Posted by
mejo 
Some of our children have been living in this insanity for years.
And there lies the problem. The children, their needs, wants, and wellbeing need to be put before the addicts. What did they do to deserve the insanity? Absolutely nothing.
So many of us literally change around our living situation (why should we move out and let the addict stay) and do all sorts of crazy stuff so the addict won't have to face the consequences.
I mean no criticism here, just pointing out that it is easy in codependency to let our children get run over.
It took me a long time to see and understand that.