Thanks guys, that's pretty much what I was thinking, too. She just doesn't get it. It's weird tho, cuz I feel like even if I couldn't relate, I'd get it enough to know that wasn't a cool thing to say. Meh, I'm not stressing, I know she would never hurt me on purpose. I wanted to hear your opinions tho. I appreciate your comments.
No pbc, I never mentioned it to d. To be clear tho, he didn't do anything upsetting, it was just my friend's comment. We were with the kids (not right that moment, but on the trip) and it didn't really come up again, I didn't feel like it was worth talking about with him really. I wanted more to hear from you guys cuz you understand better. Thanks again. I feel better about letting it go.