My boys are 15 now and xah is moving out and I have told both boys they cannot live with him until they have finished school and college. End of. I 'm adamant about it cos he is also loose and free and won't make them do things they need to do ( they are home schooled and he just won't do it. He never got involved here and he won't if he has them living with him) Also the drinking will still be ongoing and he can't look after himself. I want them away from seeing him drinking. It's partly why we are divorcing. What I'd do if they insisted I've no idea cos in UK the custody laws finish at 16.