why on earth would you apologize for wanting a decent peaceful life for yourself? think about it? You are a good mother, but he is 41 years old, he ain't a baby, he has a brain to USE. the first thing he does when he can't find his way is cry for mama to help him find an address. at that point, mama has to stop answering the phone and let him figure it out and use the said brain muscle which is weak from all the enabling. This is possible for you to do, but probably hard to sit on your tongue.
waffling is best when they are toasted crunchy with butter and jam....not soggy with sympathy syrup...(sigh, it's always about food analogies with me isn't it)?