Originally Posted by
Confused39 
I want to help him I'm the only person he talks to and I know I shouldn't be available to support him unless he's seeking sobriety but I'm scared that if I don't support him he won't come through this and he will continue to spiral. Feeling very confused about everything but I've accepted although very sadly that my marriage is over.
Confused, despite all the love and connection you have to him, you are not the key to his sobriety. Until he is willing to do anything to get sober, he will not be capable of staying sober. Your efforts to support him may ultimately prop up his addiction, not his attempts to get sober.