This is why I told my RAH that he needed to rent an apartment with at least a one-year's lease. I didn't want to backpedal myself or give him any opening to try coming home before that. Now that he's been gone for over a month, I'm 90 percent certain that this will be permanent. He's sober, working a good program, giving it his all, but MY all is pretty much used up. I'm hoping after being on his own and hopefully sober for a year, he'll understand why permanent separation is the best thing for us. If he doesn't, well, it's probably still going to be the best thing for ME.