Chic, I only wrote that because sometimes you post about "feeling softer" towards your son and I'm afraid that if you don't keep the rules you have stated, you won't be taken seriously.
(but we can still have some good crispy waffles and maple syrup too).
I hope he comes out of his room and you stop having conversations through the closed door...that would frustrate the hell out of me too.
You need some peace of mind and help, doing it all yourself is exhausting. hugs