I agree with Florence too.
Also Liz wondering if your RAH is working a program. I found that in the beginning my RAH was turning everything in his program around. So if he heard other folks talking about their non A spouses harboring resentments he would be talking about his resentments. Another example is if he heard talk about making amends to non A spouses he would be wondering about when I was going to be making my amends.
Not sure if this makes sense but really what purpose does it serve for your RAH to tell you he resents you using his points. You saved the $ so what difference does it make?
Oops not really in spirit of your original post. So to answer that I am learning to say something once and then let it go no matter how much it bothers me and what response I get or don't get. It's hard but it has helped ease some buildup of resentments.