I don't get it either, but I truly think that is a 'guy' thing. After 32 years with this man - the LAST thing I am thinking about - is another man. Sure, do I want to feel loved, pretty and cherished? Absolutely! My husband 'just doesn't 'LOVE' me the way he used to'. Well, let the 56 year old, living with his parents, unlicensed, alcoholic who has a breathalizer in his dad's car go searching. I am so, so tired of being treated poorly. I deserve more than he is giving me. I, too, am stuck and wanted to put us back together but yesterday, after he so very calmly told me that he doesn't love me anymore, I snapped. Even though I have had personalized counselling, I need more. I need help. I, too, am so, so angry and hurt.