Liz, my opinion, and my opinion only. Take what you can, leave the rest. It's summertime. Is there a way for you to go to Florida to be with your mom and your grandma, I think it would mean the world to them. Also to be with your grandfather no matter what his state of mind is at. Lets say 2 weeks.
Don't worry about anything about your marriage right now. It is what it is. It will be what it will be when you get back.
BTW, as an RA, non-alcoholic beer, you don't drink it because like you like it, you drink it because your want to caress the bottle, you want to smell it, and you want to drink it hoping that it gives you a buzz, when it doesn't, you get the real thing. Non-A beer taste really sucks, and you don't get what you want from it. I do feel it is the gateway back to hello. HELL O, I miss my old friend.