The alcohol is in the bottle. The 'ism' is in the person. Its an AA cliche but it is true. You can let it go. People have and do by the thousand..and of course some smash on into the end game.
How about trying an AA meeting just to talk over what's going on with people there? You may be a skeptic (I was a big one!) but it has been the best thing I could have done, it turned out!