Yeah I'm in control of this. It's my fight against the beast. Not my brothers or his other halfs responsibility. I'm on day 6 of not smoking too and in some ways that's harder than the alcohol to kick lol some professional told my brother it would be easier for me to kick all my addictions at once...... didn't he just make my day lol not!!
I've done spreadsheets today to sort out my finances too so I know exactly where I am and my forecast until January. It's a big bit of peace in having a plan to follow. Phew!