Originally Posted by
chicory 
I guess i can look online now... old fashioned, was gonna check the phone book...haha.
I have a vague memory of a thing called a 'phone book'. Good for propping things up. Just caught up on your thread and can see how constructive you are being.
Physical violence aside (or threat of), yelling, punching objects, swearing etc. is the resort of men who can't express themselves. I've worked with a lot of young guys and they don't dissolve into tears like us gals, they swear and kick/punch objects.
I've found there's no point in talking too much to these individuals as they don't have the capacity to deal with emotional conversations. They do understand actions and consequences - it may not be what they like, but they're not required to talk! Writing a note is also effective as it gives them time to digest, and possibly reply in writing.
What you're doing is necessary and brave and I wish you all the best.