Thread: Is it just me?
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Old 06-24-2014, 10:35 AM
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I've heard that an alcoholic's emotional development stops at the time they start really drinking. He sounds immature, and also like he is only going through the motions of recovery to appease you and the legal system. Buying booze after an AA meeting is not the action of someone who is in real recovery.
Good for you not taking the bait over his guilt trip about you moving in. That's pure manipulation and for someone not truly working a program his "one day at a time" talk strikes me as quacking.
All that stuff is normal in an alcoholic relationship, and I think that your healthy instincts are guiding you away from this man as you realize that you deserve better. Addiction IS a fundamental relationship problem, and you have a right to say "this isn't working for me" without justifying your actions or thought process to anyone.
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