mallowcup

I see these as modes of survival. If you have children, you protect them from seeing their father in the flowerbed. You let them sleep by opening the door and getting him into bed. Enabling?, I think these are measures of his problem with alcohol, They are not mistakes, they are measures. I think every wife or husband goes through these transitions trying to find one that works. None of them do. I won't take on that responsibilty of being a part of the reason he drinks. It imples that if you do something other than these things, he won't drink.