me too!
I am 38 and have seen the lawyer once, and will be seeing him soon to get things rolling. My husband does just the same- all this yammering and protesting and wanting to talk talk talk talk talk....but it leads to nothing. I notice that every time he and I talk, I have in my mind a scenario of how I THINK it will go, or how I THINK he might react...and every time he takes it a totally other direction that I never saw coming. I realized recently that I am anticipating his reactions to be SANE...and they never are. I need to start understanding that he will not respond in a typical, normal way.
Would an alcoholic father, who drove with kids drunk, has relapsed repeatedly, etc. be granted a lot in the way of custody, in the experience of those here? Part of me wants to really fight for all of it - legal and physical- but I don't know how hard that will be. Can others chip in with insights on the legal/physical issues?