Consider the source Emmy!
I honestly can't wait until you see yourself for what you are (amazing mom! hard worker! ambitious! etc) and him for what he is (an abusive addict).
Take it from me, allowing a sick person in your head, will make you sick!! He doesn't get to define who you are!! You do!
My new expression is "oh, I am sorry you feel that way" and I let it go. Sometimes I even laugh to myself now. I know longer care what someone who finds the need to escape reality, say hurtful things to make himself feel better, lie, manipulate, deflect, etc thinks of me!! Neither should you!!