"Bad blood" song
Has anyone heard the "bad blood" song by Bastille. I really like the song, but the lyrics have me triggered with irritation. In the song he basically says that the bad blood should be let dry, or that the other person should just "let it lie".
This is the kind of excuse I get from my two estranged siblings who have no intention to stop doing the very thing I asked them to stop doing - insulting my wife. They say things like, "just forget it", "stop dwelling on the past", "let it go", etc. Neither of them have made amends to my wife for the things they've said, or continue to say. Why would we want to be around that? ("your wife is crazy", "it's in your best interest to divorce", "she's not my favorite person", etc)
I've read many books about it and one person pointed out that you don't have to reconcile to forgive. Even one other said that people that don't repent don't deserve forgiveness.
What is holding a grudge or not letting it go, really? Is it more like the issue was actually resolved and the person simply can't get past the misbehavior and the trust is gone and they say, 'I'm sorry, but the trust is gone and I don't think it's coming back." Or they wish harm on the other person - swear that person's name - wishing them ill?
(PS - I am a recovering alcoholic - about 2 years sober - I believe they're both active in their alcoholism - one brother's 3 year-old son offered him a beer when he offered me a water - the other got jack daniels bottles for his birthday from 5 different friends of his, etc)