When the crisis hit in Feb our marriage was hanging by a thread- both of us were actually thinking about how we would get out though not talking about it to each other... Beatie suggests that relationship changes be deferred "until its clear" what the choice is. I get the rock bottom proposition though, I know my wife was pretty sick of me and I could make lists of what I was thinking about her, and that had been "maturing" for getting on 10 years.
As others have suggested, its the changes (or lack of) on both of your parts which show recovery. One thing that recovery is teaching me is patience with myself and with her- obviously I want stuff better NOW because the old situation was horrible. But I liken early recovery to putting a broken bone in a cast, it has to heal and you have to not stress the situation more while thats happening. Might be you two will knit, might be not but you can't tell for a while.