Radiant, have you thought about just leaving the area where you live?
Is that "home" for you or is it where you moved when you married?
I'm curious because I think maybe you might have more job opportunities somewhere else
and maybe it's getting to be time to get this guy out of your life totally and for good.
He's on a downward spiral, and I notice he seems very free coming to your house and getting in your space.
You are doing amazingly well. Poster girl for self-empowerment kick that codie crap to the curb