Originally Posted by
RollTide 
My ex used to do the same thing with comments that had "deniability" if he were actually called on it. He would say, "I don't know what will happen if your ex ever comes by but it won't be good" insinuating that he would hurt or kill him. He didn't have the balls to actually make a threat. And the crazy part...I hadn't seen my ex in over two decades and he lived over a thousand miles away. It's just another form of quacking.
My AH would say stuff about the neighbors and give me the impression that he would kill them if he had a gun. It's one of the reasons I won't allow us to have a gun in the house and AH would get all mad and make comments like, "She won't allow me to have a gun." Umm, no, what I said was that I would not live in a house where both you and a gun reside, based on comments that you have made. Since starting on antidepressants, he has not had any paranoia or angry outbursts, so I'm quite thankful for that!
I have to admit, I admire the fact that he's truly throwing himself into recovery. He's been to a meeting every day since last Friday and that's HUGE for him. I'm trying not to see it as quacking, I'm trying to be positive and see that maybe he can change. Yet, at the same time, I'm working on my stuff and getting my life squared away.