Originally Posted by
happybeingme 
There is that lingering guilt. There is that part of me that says "But she is your mother" It is the pits
I have suffered from that guilt too. I suffered from it for exactly the same reason 'she is my mother', then I suffered from it because 'but she is very ill' then I suffered from it because 'Does this mean I am not practicing my program', then I suffered because I thought 'how would I like it if I were treated that way' etc etc etc
Where does all this guilt come from, where is the rule that I must put up with BS in my life..... It comes from myself that's where!!! I developed certain traits 'I get guilt feelings when I stand up for myself (trait 7).
As I said in a previous post; I make some contact with my Mother as opposed to zero. That helps me balance the sense of duty, guilt and having compassion. I need to remember that my Mother is an Adult Child as well, she just hasn't had the gift of discovery/recovery and nor is she ever likely to.
M