NW, you are absolutely right. And yet I am still wracked with guilt. It doesnt help that she is an alcoholic. Just dysfunctional. So, she is often viewed as helpless. And I am the eldest. And...and....and.
I know telling her that it wasnt healthy for me to have her.in my life anymore was the smartest choice for me. There is that lingering guilt. There is that part of me that says "But she is your mother" It is the pits