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Old 06-03-2014, 12:49 PM
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Originally Posted by lizatola View Post
So, my question is: how do YOU handle your fears when you don't know where the alcoholic is, when you don't know anything really, but you know that they've been drinking? Honestly, I know the answer really: turn it over to God, to my Higher Power, and let it go. But, it's so much easier said than done!
Liz

For me the fear kicks in when I am already ten steps ahead of myself.

Once I am on that crazy train it is hard for me to step off. With practice and patience I am finding how much easier it is when I try not to step on. I am far from perfect at it, but it has gotten easier. I do best when I am proactive, not reactive....then I don't slide down into the fear.

In this case, for me calling and trying to make plans when he was away = set up because you know he might be drinking. I would be spiralling as a result.

Is there a way you could have stepped back earlier in the process so you could have been proactive instead of reactive?
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