Only therapy helped me with those types of fears. I usto replay in my head all the time the death and/or jail conversations with my kids. I just knew if I filed for divorce he would commit suicide. Come to find out....no so much, thank God. He is doing ok, I had just let my fears run away.
Therapy helped me see no matter what choices he made or makes, they are his and are completely separate from me. The three C's apply every single time don't they?
((lizatola))