It is our inability to give up the drink that is the problem. I put together a few months of sobriety last year only by taking alcohol completely out the equation. I started to grow...gain clarity...learn new ways of dealing...endure uncomfortable situations...find new ways to cure boredom and new ways to relax, decompress and unwind.
Then I put alcohol back into the equation.
Progress stopped...and I slipped back into avoidance and stagnation. If moderation and restraint has never been your structure with alcohol...it's unlikely you will be able to teach yourself new tricks in a game already out of your control