I am not in a serious relationship but when I date I sort of have developed a go with the flow attitude. So I go out and have fun with whatever we're doing at the moment and let it fly...I don't worry about the future or the past...so I say are you having fun? Do you enjoy the dates and connection? If so then it's going great!
I don't think your thinking is insane at all - it's completely understandable given what you've been through....one of the things I work on a lot on therapy is giving myself a break (no negative self talk). You deserve one and deserve this great guy.
