Thanks!!!
As for AH, the doctor thinks that the cyst on his brain may be pushing on sensitive areas, causing him a lot of problems. It's been there a long time, but we didn't think anything of it. It's been getting bigger and the doctors he works with noticed it. He says he is going to start his own counseling after this is dealt with, and hopefully he does. Once he has the test results back, he will know what the next step is.
My boys are doing well. I think the key is that they are still seeing their dad regularly. If anything, I think their relationship with him has improved. AH and I are taking them to a movie in the park tomorrow night. We are trying to do things with them as a family with no fighting involved so that they feel secure. It's really working - I don't really speak to AH other than to discuss the kids, so when I see him, we just keep it really friendly and normal. The boys are happy. I am keeping them active with play dates with their friends and trips to Grandma and Grandpa's.