btw -- the rehab does dual-diagnosis and treats anxiety disorders and other things as much as the addiction. Whether he goes or not is up to him. What I needed was to find where and who to turn this over to. I'm feeling better about this. Not hopeful, as that might imply I expect him to actually follow through with that. Feeling better because I'm not alone, there are people who are experts in addictions who are there for him, whether or not he chooses to make use of that. It's NOT up to me.
There's been the gaslighting, minimizing and denial going on yesterday and today. The past 1 1/2 months when he's been willing to talk about it and admits to having a problem, when he will reach out for help, when something happens to where he sobers up and starts working in some way on recovery, that I can deal with. We've had better days. When the gaslighting starts, at least I'm wiser now and can respond differently -- instead of arguing, call for reinforcements to help with my own mental state.
