I know what I am going to say is a difficult thought to think...but, soulmate and physically abusive and really hurt me several times don't go together in the same sentence.
It's really difficult to consider changing the way we think about someone we love when we are convinced they have a certain role in our lives. That what we have believed very strongly may not add up to loving behavior from that person.
It's up to you of course whether you change your beliefs on that. You have the right to disregard what I say. You might try looking at it from that point of view, just for a minute.
I really feel that we, sometimes, have to reconsider how we define a person we may love, and that is very hard to do. Redefining them...differently than our hopes and dreams.
I know it hurts emotionally to look at him in any other way than as your soulmate.
He is hurting you, physically, and emotionally.
And that is so hard to accept.
Do soulmates do that?
You don't have to answer that question to anyone but yourself.