Hi, I am sorry that you may not be hearing what you would like to hear. Relationships with an A is really hard. It takes everything out of you and the A. It changes you as a person. You start to become something you never would have imagined you would be. All of us who are with or have been with an A are extremely strong people, but we get worn down. Broken. I love my AH with all my heart, but he has to be the strong one now. I cannot help him, fix it, or take it away. All I can do is pray he gets better and that we can work through the aftermath of all thats been betrayed. BTW, you will be betrayed over and over and over. No one here is going to sugarcoat anything. We have to be honest, for your sake.
Please keep reading things on this site and keep sharing. It's good for the soul. And if nothing else, please go to alanon and start working a program.